Sometimes we burn things down just to feel the heat again. The relapse, the ruined relationship, the self-sabotage—it’s not always about destruction. It’s about stirring the stillness, forcing motion when you feel like you’re going numb. And for a lot of us, chaos becomes a backwards kind of motivation. You light a match under your life because deep down, you need something to chase, something to prove, something to fight. That’s the dragon. That surge of intensity that cuts through the apathy, that wakes something primal in you, even if it comes at a cost.
The problem is, if you don’t choose your dragon, you’ll end up creating one through crisis. So when you're trying to heal—whether it’s from addiction, depression, or just the quiet erosion of meaning—you need something outside yourself to move toward. A purpose. A pursuit. A mission that grabs you by the gut and doesn’t let go. Because recovery isn’t just about removing the bad—it’s about replacing it with something fierce enough to keep you focused when everything in you wants to fade. Get yourself a dragon that doesn’t burn your life down but drives you to rebuild it. One that keeps you locked in, not locked out. Because if you don’t give your fire direction, it will find destruction instead.
I just had someone say this to me today! How coincidental! 😂